Two of the biggest bulls#!t sayings you hear the biggest losers say all the time are:
- I just don’t have to the time
- I just need the motivation to do it
I’m not going to sugar coat this for you guys. The “I have no time” excuse is absolute and utter crap. On average most people watch an incredible amount of 33 hours of TV every week. Not to mention the endless hours scrolling through Instagram and Facebook news feeds.
Right so here are a couple of ways to help you sort your shit out!
– Level of effort
Our level of effort will tell us what our priorities truly are. We make time for what we want to do the most, what’s most important to us. We invest our time and energy into it, spend money on it, and forgo other things in our lives for it.
So when someone busts out the old “I don’t have time” excuse. What they’re really saying is “I don’t make time/value enough time for that”. There is a difference between an excuse and a reason. If you’re late getting to work because you hit snooze on the alarm 10 times, that is an excuse. You could have been on time but chose to stay in bed for too long. On the other hand if on the way to work you get a flat tire and therefore were late to work, that is a reason.
If someone doesn’t want to train or follow a nutrition plan, that’s fine. If however someone uses the excuse of “I don’t have time” this is rubbish.
Then theres motivation… how motivated are you??
I’m going to be a little bit savage here and say that…
Motivation is a joke.
No amount of motivational videos you watch, memes you read or pictures you see, no matter who you are. Everyone, and I mean every single person on planet earth has the same same mental battles and tests of willpower when it comes to putting in the work, and staying disciplined.
There are two main emotions that most people base our choices around, they’re pleasure and pain. it is human nature to lean towards pleasure and avoid pain. Our brain and our body are always nudging us towards pleasure and away from pain. Even if that means taking us further away from what it is we say we want the most, if achieving those things involves fear or suffering or possible failure.
Something I learnt from my swimming days is that quite often, doing something for the greater good doesn’t actually feel very good while we’re doing it. * x 100m freestyle max efforts on 3 the minute cycle used to destroy me. the lactic acid production in my body was disgusting.. I would 10/10 vomit after about 4-6 of them and then get back up for 7 & 8. I was doing this because i wanted to get better, get faster and be able to race at a higher level.
Generally doing things that feel good in that moment means that we’re making choices to avoid the pain, and go straight to pleasure.
This doesn’t just occur in our health and fitness but in just about every other facet of our lives as well.
Short term reward gives us immediate comfort. And that feels good, we like that. What’s really fascinating is that generally we consciously know that, making these decisions is counterproductive to achieving our goal, and sometimes can be stupid compared to what we need to be doing to get us where we need to be. The reason why, is that the difficult road we know we should be taking simply just looks and feels distressing.
This is where explantation time begins to speak very loudly in our mind. Suffocating any other thoughts become a whisper in comparison.
We come up with an explanation for everything, our weakness. our poor decisions. our procrastination. our lack of effort.
The more difficult path is full with pain, struggle, adversity, disbelief and massive levels of uncertainty. However Netflix and take away on the other hand is certainty. Take away tastes so good kicking back to watch season 3 of Peaky Blinders in one day feels good too.
The trade off though is that taking the quick route to pleasure and avoiding pain generally causes more pain in the end. The difficult path tends to bring us the greatest amount of pleasure and satisfaction in the long run. So if you’re wanting to achieve certain things in life stop being soft knuckle down take the difficult road and you will experience far greater achievements.
When motivation wanes, discipline creates habits
Almost anything worth achieving in life comes with a fairly large amount of work and sacrifice. The longer it takes to achieve the end goal, the more likely our motivation will weaken. We’re not always going to be highly motivated. Working for the life, body, bank account, or relationships we want is not always going to be enjoyable and easy. Bottom line most of it isn’t going to be fun. Sometimes in order to achieve theres goals, you need to do to what you don’t necessarily feel like doing. Most of the time, it’s going to take a lot more time and work than you might have thought at the start.
This is what you need to wrap your head around when this happens.
Motivation will only last as long as the desire to achieve/get something remains greater than struggle to achieve it.
During the times that motivation is low, developing the skill to be able to see beyond the pain and discomfort, the frustration, the stress, and the plateaus is how you’ll be able to keep going. This is the beginning of a big part of success… discipline. Discipline creates habits and it is habits not motivation that are going toe help to achieve those goals.
TIP: Swap out your wants for needs
I want you to think about for a second the language that kids use when they desire something?
“I want ice cream.”
“I want this toy.”
“I want…I want…I want.”
It is a childish mindset that is influenced heavily by wants, and doesn’t have the capability to evaluate needs.
We need to have a good think about ourselves and our choices that will help us to reevaluate our life so that we can assess the difference in what we want, and what we really need. This starts with two simple questions.
What do I need? And what am I willing to give up to achieve it?
For example.. I might want massive house and a Lamborghini one day, but I don’t need either of these things, and I’m not willing to give up my sanity and retirement to try and achieve this “want”.
Working out what your true needs is way more important than focusing your energy on your wants. This will also help you to you to identify the habits you need to see the manifestation of goals become a reality in your training and life.
Remember the 80-10-10 rule!
When we train, the 80-10-10 rule refers to 80% of the training sessions we engage in, will be simply just doing the work. 10% will be epic, and 10% will suck arsehole. Where too many people go wrong is they place too much bearing on two 10% sessions and let them dictate their moods and choices around training and nutrition.
No bodybuilder/physique competitor expects to stay in competition leanness all year around. That would be counterproductive to building a better physique for the next competition. the same goes that no strength athlete expects to be at true maximal strength all the time, either. It’s simply not possible.
The difficult, monotonous work is most often the most important when it comes to arriving at completeness or success, rather than the ups and downs.
All this in mind it is important to not over-extend all the time
Muscle is not built in the gym. It’s formed there, but rebuilt through recovering properly. If someone has a constant habit of over-extending by training too much, then they will never be able to recover properly. This applies to every aspect of your life. If you are continuously draining your body, mind, and emotional energy of its energy then you will never be at your best. If you struggle to know when to take your foot off the accelerator then you will eventually blow the engine.
Sometimes the old saying one step back, to take two steps forwards needs to come into play.
But are you willing to do this? Most of us get caught up in the mindset that to achieve or obtain more, that we need to do more work. Convincing ourselves the reason things aren’t happening fast enough is because we’re not doing enough work. Even when we’re exhausted and fatigued mentally, physically, and emotionally.
This will eventually catch up to us, like we said earlier, motivation will be running low. If we fail account for times where we need to “deload”, then expect to hit a wall like as if you’ve been run over by a truck. 9 times out of 10 we then need to take five steps forwards just to get back to where we were.
If you are not self-aware enough to know when you’re running on empty, and need to deload, then expect to go backwards and have larger setbacks.
Important Take Home Points
– Stop seeking the short-term reward, and look down the difficult path that leads to potential greatness.
- Stop relying on motivation for success. Create a disciplined lifestyle that creates habits.
- Don’t focus too much energy on setbacks or high points. Focus on what’s really important consistent hard work.
– Understand the differences between your needs and wants.